By Lois Maharg
Patricia Doyle has facilitated the Family-to-Family class for 14 years. Recently I asked her: After such a long time leading NAMI’s family education course, what keeps her returning to teach year after year?
One of Pat’s loved ones began experiencing symptoms of a mental health condition in early adulthood and over time they have learned to manage the challenges. She still experiences some grief, though, because her loved one cannot always achieve what they desire. It’s helpful for her when she and the class can share their experiences together.
Asked what else participants typically appreciate about the class, she said, “The times during the class when people can share for even two or three minutes, before class, during break, or afterwards. That time when they can connect with others. They see they’re not alone.” And when they learn from others that it may be possible for their loved one to live with a mental health condition and go on to lead a fulfilling life, they realize there’s hope for their loved one, too.
Pat is a relaxed and confident Family-to-Family facilitator today. But when she first contemplated training to lead the class, the role didn’t seem like it would be a perfect fit. She’d never been a teacher or done presentations before.
“But I sure knew that within me, I could relate to those people,” she said. “I knew I could easily put myself in their shoes.”
Even so, it took time for Pat to reach her stride. At first, she had trouble sharing details about her family situation. She was emotional and struggled to hold back tears when she heard a story similar to her own.
Leading the Family-to-Family class is much easier for her now.
“I feel more comfortable sharing the experiences and emotions that I felt during the most difficult times,” she said. “I can hear other people tell their stories and convey that, ‘yes, I get it. I understand what you’re going through.’ And I still learn from others’ experiences things that I haven’t experienced myself.”
At times, Pat may enter the classroom feeling busy and wondering why she signed up to teach that week. By the end of class, she’s always glad she taught.
“It’s the feeling of helping others to take the next step in what they need to do,” she said. “It lifts me up.”
NAMI Washtenaw County is currently seeking more Family-to-Family program leaders. Interested in learning more and getting involved? Please fill out our interest form here. We’ll be offering more Family-to-Family classes in the future. If you’re interested in registering for an upcoming Family-to-Family class, you can do so here.